Bye Instagram

And at last it happened! I deleted my instagram account πŸ™‚
The following day I receive an email from my German agent asking if all was ok, what happened and if maybe I changed name. All was and is ok.

There is a real world here and I was starting to miss it out. The thing is that the most beautiful things I do or see I never share online, also the best moments and the people I love the most I never share them either. I tried many times to keep my instagram “real” and not follow the trends to gain followers but I still realise I get in a mindset I don’t like. I can’t control it, I begin obsessing over getting new content, new publishing material, what if I don’t show that at the moment I haven’t been working? Will people label me as looser? What if I don’t show them how successful I am… what if I don’t show them how happy I am… What if what if what if. Lucky the one who is immune to it! I am certainly not.
In my profession having instagram today is crucial, yet I have agents who should guarantee me the work. We models forget that. It’s very easy today to get a girl with +10k followers to book jobs…. but can you get a girl booked if she has no followers? Where are those booker’s skills then? I dropped agents in the past when they started telling me unless I reach 10K they will not book me a job, well that goes against my philosophy.

Instagram has the ability to rewire your brain. Many bend their reality, change their bodies, have plastic surgery, choose the right friends, choose the right girlfriend… to be photogenic for instagram!!! Are we crazy? As if that intangible world is more important than our physical one. Instagram gives you the illusion of reality, because the thoughts and images you create in your head are the way you access emotions but the problem is that you are not connected to your body. Another problem is that the people you start interacting with that you have never actually met before create after a while an illusion of friendship and “knowingness”.

I am still here though. More alive and ok than ever. Funny how people immediately think one has problems if she gets off line, no?
One thing that I had been thinking about was … 15 years there wasn’t social media, how was I keeping inΒ  contact with friends? Well I wasn’t! Or rather, I had the phone number of those who interested me or email address but after a while unless I was physically seeing them we would lose touch and to each his/her own life. Today there is this crazy belief or myth we must keep in contact with everyone and see what everyone is doing. Well I thought: what if I stop keeping contacts through social media? What if I start looking around myself more? What if instead of looking at millions of photos I start travelling the world? …. There is a photo of every magical place on Earth, or so they make you believe, but aren’t you tired of looking at photos? Everywhere we live beauty is offered to us but we look for a prepackaged beauty, we look for someone to point out that that is beautiful. That is worthy of instagram. That is worthy of thousands of likes. You are worthy of thousands of likes… oh but if you’re not reaching that then you are certainly unworthy, uninteresting, etc.

Illusions…. when are you going to give up on them?

 

SHINE!

Photographer Guido Stazzoni

Social media lately resembles more like a black garbage hole than an actual sharing platform.

Every time I enter my facebook profile I panic I will read of some catastrophe or how bad the news are about climate, how little time we have to save the planet (stop: trust me Mother Earth will take care of herself… like she always did! ALWAYS! We should really worry about ourselves. REALLY!), how fascist Italy is becoming again, etc. Sometimes I feel I live in some other parallel reality. Somewhere things are not that bad. Somewhere the Sun rises every morning to warm our bodies. Somewhere people are kind and gentle and smile back at you if you dare the first smile (I guarantee it works!!). Somewhere I see solutions to every problem. Somewhere …. somewhere exactly where you are too. Same world, different view.

I wish the world silenced for a week for all of us to “stop” and look around. Imagine not reading the news for a week. Imagine relying on your living perception of reality. Imagine nobody fed us with panic. Imagine we chose what to eat and what information to incorporate. WAIT … we can. In a world where corporations feed you with shit only to enrich themselves with your poor health, and journalists are paid to use catchy titles to drive your attention onto their page… you can choose to fast!

SHINE!

The antidote is not bigger darkness. It’s counterproductive to try win the bad being more bad. Don’t play with darkness or you risk to lose yourself in it πŸ™‚ Instead shine! Bring your focus and your attention to all that you wish to grow: acts of human kindness, love, integrity, education, being, and so on. You must understand that the more you share all that is bad and wrong you enhance it and give it power. Drive away your attention from it! Which doesn’t mean to pretend as if it doesn’t exist, no it means to acknowledge reality and choose wisely and rationally what to focus your attention on.

Go ahead! 🌟